Valentine’s Day and many other holidays can entice you to set limiting expectations for yourself, for loved ones, and for many aspects of your life. No matter how much you may want to adhere to the conventions of social norms, you can actually benefit from taking a step back from it all and saying not today. You can devote this holiday—or any day—to showing yourself compassion and taking care of the metaphysical heart, which can mean so much on a day that is dedicated to love.

Let Go of Your Expectations Many women and men set expectations for how they should spend Valentine’s Day and other holidays throughout the year. When you focus on what “should be” or what “could have been,” it may take away from your ability to enjoy the present and see the beauty in the version of yourself that is here today—because you are beautiful. You can try to give up the expectations you have for yourself, your appearance, and your loved ones, and see the opportunities that arise as you make space in your head and your heart for more beneficial thoughts.

Be Patient and Positive No matter what you do in the upcoming months and for any upcoming holidays, you can be patient with yourself and aim for a positive mindset. There are things to look forward to and to appreciate, even if you’re by yourself. Just like when you discover a new beauty tool that takes time to get used to, such as a heated eyelashes curler, it takes time to be patient. Practice patience (and practice with that heated eyelash curler, too) because the outcome can be so rewarding, and you can do anything you put your mind to.

Explore Opportunities for Self-Care

Self-care can come in many forms, but some of the most basic forms of self-care include getting out of your home (even if it’s just for a walk), treating yourself to something that appeals to your interests, and trying new things. Take the opportunity to dedicate Valentine’s Day to yourself this year. If you want to explore a new beauty routine as a form of self-care, try eyelash curlers heated gently to a moderate temperature, which may help you see self-care in a different light. This can do wonders for your self-esteem and your mindset. 

Take Yourself on a Date You are fully capable of treating yourself to a solo date night on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year. You can get dressed up, put on a little makeup, and have some fun by yourself. It’s okay if you don’t want to spend too much time on your appearance—you’re doing this for yourself and nobody else. There are ways for you to achieve an effortlessly beautiful look in no time at all. For example, a liquid pen eyeliner with a tapered brush can bring out the natural beauty of your eyes in two clean sweeps. Just a minute to yourself can help boost your confidence and let you see your solo date for what it is—an experience.

No matter what steps you take to take care of your heart, you can use the day and your self-care practices to help you explore your natural beauty and the love you have within yourself. 

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